Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Be a Blessing to Someone

I heard a phenomenal sermon this past Sunday. I got several things out of the sermon but one of them I want to share with you.
A segment of the sermon was on how to be a blessing to someone else. The preacher said that we could pray to God asking him to help us to be a blessing to someone. He gave several reason of why we should take advantage of our amazing Christian life and be a blessing to someone.  It doesn't matter what you have been through in life, be a blessing to someone. He said to turn our blessings into blessings for someone else.

 Honestly, can you imagine what this world would be like if everyone thought that way!!!

That part of the sermon about blessings was perfect! I related to it on so many levels. I have always been the type of person that went above and beyond to help others. I never thought that I would have so many people help me in my life. I have had people help me in almost every way possible from buying food for the boys...to helping with therapy bills....buying items for the boys that they needed....praying for us....you name it, someone has blessed me in that category! I have and will forever remain grateful for each and every blessing that I have received in not only my whole life but especially since my life went down the road that has autism in it:)

I wrote my book because I wanted to help someone...just one person was good for me.  I wanted to be a BLESSING to someone. I knew what it felt like to have received blessings and I wanted to return it to someone else. If my book is a blessing to just one person then I have passed on that feeling of what it feels like to have an answered prayer,....to have a blessing!

I read numerous books in the beginning of my autism journey that were major blessings to me. All the memoirs and educational books helped me to be a much better mother. Therefore, if my book could help one parent of a child with autism....one neighbor to an autistic family...one family member to an autistic family....one teacher to a child with autism......one community to an autism family, then it was a success! Then I was able to turn my blessings that God blessed me with into someone else's blessings. I bear others burdens like I said in a previous post. I have lots of burdens but I bear others. My book is my way of bearing others burdens and turning a blessing into an answered prayer for someone.

Let's all try to turn our life into a blessing to someone. We all have went through something in our life where we can turn it into a blessing for someone else. 

Sunday, July 24, 2016


Andrew got a haircut over the weekend. He used to love to go to the salon and get his haircut. Not so much anymore! He doesn't have the sensory issues with haircuts like Trenton does but he has a little anxiety over the anticipation of a cut.

With all of the said, I somehow talked him into me giving him a haircut. I told him and went on and on about how I could cut his hair just like Trenton's. (I shave Trenton's head with a number 2 guard because he has very severe issues when it comes to haircuts.)
Andrew thought that was the best idea ever! Having a hair cut just like Trenton was going to be great! He, for the first time in a long time, was excited over getting a haircut with a number 2 guard just like T-mans! it was the shortest Andrew's hair would have ever been.

After I cut his hair I went on and on about how cute he was.
I said, "Andrew. No one is going to know that is you. They might think you are T-man in that haircut."

Well that was the wrong thing to say! It was on his mind all day that no one would know that he was Andrew.

"Mommy, they have to know it is me. I am not T-man." I heard numerous times.
At one point he said, "They will know it is me Mom. I talk and T-man don't so that will make people know it is me and not T-man. I am Andrew, not T-man. I don't want people to get me confused with T-man cause I have hair like him now"

All day long he would randomly say, "Mommy it's me not T-man. I just have hair like T-man."

This my friends is the funny stuff that I LOVE about autism. If I don't laugh.....I would cry!!

(People on the spectrum have a hard time understanding jokes.)

Huge Highlights

I am the type of mother that tells my boys, "I Love You" approximately 50 times a day......ok maybe not that many times but  I am telling you its up there.  Even if I don't hear it back from Trenton, I tell him just as many times as I tell Andrew. 
The past four days I have heard Trenton spontaneoulsy say, " I love you" two to three times each day. Twice he was looking right at me, smiling, and clapping. He knew exactly what he said and he was so happy. Of course, we celebrated and I jumped up and down with him giving him kisses and hugs. The other times, he said it while he was pacing around the house.

So, was it directed at me while he was pacing and not looking at me? I have no idea but many individuals with severe autism are unable to show their feelings or are unable to act happy when they are happy. Majority of the time, when they are happy they can't show it. So, I am going to guess and say that there is a good idea that those " I love yous" that he said when he wasn't looking at me and instead pacing around the house could have been meant for me:) One way or the other I will tell myself they were!!!

Another highlight for T-man is potty training. WOW! He is really doing great and I could not be prouder of him. It has been one of the hardest things that I have went through with Trenton and we started early spring 2015. I battled scratches..being hit at...kicked at by my own son. My hair was pulled by him. He would refuse to go to the bathroom when it was time.....I am not joking when I say we went through what seemed like H-E-L-L! But....we are accomplishing it folks! To top it off, I have went through it all by myself with him. I didn't have a partner who took over after I was hit at constantly by my son for ten minutes. I had to battle through it. So....yes I am very prould of what Trenton and I are accomplishing in the potty training area. VERY PROUD!!! Trenton and I would not be where we are today with the potty training issue if it wasn't for the great team at Harsha Cognitive Center.

Three times this weekend when Trenton needed to pee, he stopped what he was doing and went to the bathroom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I didn't have to tell him that it was potty time!!!!  So exciting folks!!! So exciting!
Now, please understand that even though he did that this weekend it doesn't mean that he will do it every day. Autism is a mystery. Trenton has done many things and never did them again. Whatever the case is... I am beyond proud of this boy this weekend!!
It is moments like the ones that I shared with you that makes all the hard times so worth it! It gives me the fire that I need to keep going.

Now don't get me wrong, even through we celebrated a few areas this weekend it doesn't mean that we had an easy going weekend at all. I won't tell you about the other battles....the messess....the house that was destroyed.....the meltdowns due to his inability to communicate and all the other battles we battled through. The good definitely outweighed the bad this weekend. I give all praise and glory to the Lord who is guiding me on the this amazing journey with my two amazing little boys:)

This is how I found him one time when he went all by himself:)

Tuesday, July 19, 2016

John 3:16

One of the most popular verses in the Bible is John 3:16- For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.

What a powerful verse in the Bible!! WOW! This verse, along with many others, have helped me on my journey with autism.  Truthfully, the hardships in life that I have went through has put on a much deeper understanding of many verses in Bible. However, this is the one that I want to talk about tonight.

I get asked a lot, "How do you do it?" "How do you stay so strong?"....and many more questions that are very similar to those. The first thing that I tell people is that I couldn't do it without my faith. My faith and love for God and what he has given me is what gets me through the challenging times in life.

When I want to get mad.....when I want to get frustrated and jealous of others...I simply think of the multiple examples that we have in the Bible that are there for us to read and relate to.

The first part of John 3:16 tells us that God loved us so much that he gave up his ONLY son. I can't think of any other love that is stronger than the love that someone gives up their only son for.

This is such an amazing example of how we should be as parents. It tells us that our love should be so strong that we should do what it takes to get through the hard times in life. God gave His only son for us.....so I can forfeit the life that I dreamed about in order to make a better life for my sons.
God gave His only son for us so I can give up my sleep.....I can give up my social life.....I can give up where I want to live.....I can give up a "typical, normal" life....I can at least do that for my sons after the amazing example that God set for us.

So, when you think you have it bad in life....honestly....you don't! Don't get me wrong, its hard and very difficult raising two boys with autism. However, I am not the one living in the severe autism body. I am not that one so I am blessed. If I could I would trade spots with T-man in  heartbeat. I would move mountains upon mountains for him. My love for him is that strong! God's love for me and my children was so strong that He gave up His only son....and that is simply the only example that I need! So when times are tough my friends and when you want to have a pity party...just remember...God gave up His son for you and I and we should be able to give up things and follow His example.