Friday, October 31, 2014

Speech Therapists!

We have been blessed with some amazing therapist. Like I have said before, each and everyone of them are like family to me!
I took a few pictures of Andrew in  his speech session this past week with Jill and Nicole. (Nicole is Jill's college student right now.) Anyway, Jill has done an amazing job with my boys. The boys love her and Nicole and so do I!
God has blessed us with amazing therapist to help us along our way. We have been so blessed!!! We love our speech therapist!!

Andrew's speech continues to improve greatly!!!

ECE Class Halloween party

Trenton had his Halloween party in Mrs. Edwards class on Wednesday! I was very excited that I got to go and bring the class some treats!

Trenton enjoying his cookie and juice.
Mrs. Jenny helping Trenton toss a bean bag into the pumpkin!
The class played a fun game on the smart board and Trenton loved it!

Sitting in his special chair at carpet time.
The class had a great time at their party and I know Trenton enjoyed it:)

Thursday, October 30, 2014

The Ellerbeck Family!

Last weekend we had a great visit with an awesome family! If it wasn't for autism, I would probably have never known this family. However, autism has led me to know some exceptional people and the Ellerbeck family is one of them!

Andrew loved playing with Luke who also has autism. Andrew was still saying Luke's name on Sunday:)

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Trick or Treat!

We went trick or treating a few nights early this year! This was by far the best Halloween we have ever had!!! Trenton dressed up and loved it for the first time!!! Both boys hated it last year and both loved it this year!
Halloween is a bitter sweet time for me. On Trenton's second Halloween when he was 14 months old was the moment I realized that something was wrong with him. I cried that whole evening.... and cried myself to sleep that night. He was 14 months and all he wanted to do was run away and didn't pay one bit of attention to all the people in their costumes. I cried and cried and cried! This year...I smiled, smiled, and smiled!!!
I love you boys!!
Andrew- you made the cutest Tow Mater ever!
Trenton- you are and will always be my Superman!

I love the way Andrew is looking at me and smiling in this picture!

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Monday, October 27, 2014

Pumpkin & Bathroom

I let the boys paint a pumpkin on Sunday afternoon. They enjoyed it and made a huge mess!

Trenton would have rather painted his body however. I am sure it was great sensory therapy to him.
The pumpkin turned out good!

I just have to post these pictures. I heard Andrew in the bathroom Sunday night. When I walked into the bathroom he was pretending to be Mommy......he was in my make up bag putting on makeup and trying to put a clip in his hair:)

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Mommy and Me!

Trenton has had a rough week sleeping. However, I heard the sweetest music ever around 2 AM on Friday. Trenton was pacing around the living room and I was sitting on the couch straining to keep my eyes open. Trenton walks up to me, puts his hand on my leg and says, "Mommy and Me"
IT. WAS. AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is so puzzling how words can come out sometimes and not at other times. I sure did cherish that moment and always will!


We had a great  time this morning playing in the leaves! I love this time of year. It is so beautiful. The good Lord knew what he was doing when he created this world!

 After we played in the leaves, Andrew took a 4-wheeler ride....
 and Trenton chased his chickens!


Looks like Trenton had a good time painting his  pumpkin at Harsha on Friday!

Friday, October 24, 2014


I know I get on here and rant about the stress of autism. My rants don't do it justice by no means. Its one of those things that you simply have to live it to fully understand. By no means do I expect anyone to understand. I wouldn't want you to understand fully because if you do, you are living it.

One area that I don't talk about a lot is the impact that raising two boys on the spectrum with one being severe does to the mothers health. I have always been a relatively healthy person. I had a major surgery at the age of 19 but other than that....I am healthy.

I have read several books written by autism families in a few of the books it has a parent battling cancer, another parent battling flu and constant sickness all the time, another parent in and out of the hospital for anxiety, etc. I am confident that the cancer, anxiety, and ongoing sicknesses of these parents was brought on and induced from autism. I read those books never thinking it would be me....but it is. Which is why this is important to blog. Not to blog about my own health because I want sympathy...but because its part of the journey.....its part of autism......unfortunately.

There is a youtube video that shows a doctor talking about autism on the news. This doctor stated that having a child with severe autism is the worst disability a parent can have their child diagnosed with. He is a doctor who specializes in various child disabilities. Many parents health fails when raising children on the severe end. In the past three months I have been in the ER twice with one hospital stay. I have seen several doctors with numerous test ran on myself. Would I be having my problems if it wasn't for raising two boys on the spectrum with one being severe? I really don't think so!

I am now on medicine to help my heart rate regulate correctly because due to the ongoing stress, my heart does not beat right. I am now on medicine for anxiety so I don't have any more panic attacks. I wonder why?

In a survey of 219 parents of children with autism, Sharpley, et al. (1997), found that more than 80% reported sometimes being “stretched beyond their limits,” with mothers reporting higher stress levels than fathers.   The authors commented that the three most stressful factors are “(a) concern over the permanency of the condition; (b) poor acceptance of autistic behaviors by society and, often, by other family members; and (c) the very low levels of social support received by parents.” Subjective parental pain and consequent stress went unobserved.
When Dabrowska (2010) administered the Questionnaire of Resources and Stress (QRS) to 162 parents of preschool children with autism, she correctly predicted that the level of stress would be higher in parents of children with autism than in parents of children with Down’s syndrome or in typically developing children. Parents of children with autism also scored higher than Down’s parents on three QRS scales (e.g., limits on family opportunities), and higher than parents of typically developing children, on nine out of eleven scales. As well, she found that mothers of children with ASD felt more stress than fathers, but, interestingly, she did not find this problem in either the Down’s or the typically developing population.
Estes et al. (2009) investigated how child characteristics influence maternal parenting stress and psychological distress. Participants were mothers of preschool-aged children with ASD and mothers of children with DD (developmental delay without autism). Evidence for higher levels of parenting stress and psychological distress was found in mothers in the ASD group, and children's problem behavior was associated with increased parenting stress and psychological distress in mothers in both groups.

My body can't relax at all...NEVER! The first time I feel any small bit of weight off my shoulders is when Trenton is sound asleep in bed. Even at that, its nothing like a normal child because I have to worry about his wandering issues and escaping in the night. So there is never time to relax. If I am lucky and he is in bed before 8, I still can't sit on my couch and relax. I have to pick up the Hurricane 5 destruction and make the house look presentable for  the start of the next day. Then, I have to get to bed ASAP because I never know if my day starts at midnight, two, or four AM. So I am on guard with high anxiety 24/7......again...we wonder why my health has declined along with many other autism moms.

Sources of Stress for Parents

Deficits and Behaviors of Autism.  Research indicates that parents of children with autism experience greater stress than parents of children with mental retardation and Down Syndrome. (Holroyd & McArthur, 1976; Donovan, 1988). This may be a result of the distinct characteristics that individuals with autism exhibit. An individual with autism may not be able to express their basic wants or needs. Therefore, parents are left playing a guessing game. Is the child crying because he/she are thirsty, hungry, or sick? When the parent cannot determine their child's needs, both are left feeling frustrated. The child's frustration can lead to aggressive or self injurious behaviors that threaten their safety and the safety of other family members (e.g. siblings). Stereotypic and compulsive behaviors concern parents since they appear peculiar and interfere with functioning and learning.  A child's deficits in social skills, such as the lack of appropriate play, are also stressful for families. Individuals lacking appropriate leisure skills often require constant structure of their time, a task not feasible to accomplish in the home environment. Finally, many families struggle with the additional challenges of getting their child to sleep through the night or eat a wider variety of foods. All of these deficits and behaviors are physically exhausting for families and emotionally draining. However, in families of children with autism this is a challenge. Scheduled dinner times may not be successful due to the child's inability to sit appropriately for extended periods of time. Bedtime routines can be interrupted by difficulties sleeping. Maladaptive behaviors may prevent families from attending events together. For example, Mom might have to stay home while Dad takes the sibling to their soccer game. Not being able to do things as a family can impact the marital relationship. In addition, spouses often cannot spend time alone due to their extreme parenting demands and the lack of qualified staff to watch a child with autism in their absence.
Reactions from Society and Feelings of Isolation. Taking an individual with autism out into the community can be a source of stress for parents. People may stare, make comments or fail to understand any mishaps or behaviors that may occur. For example, individuals with autism have been seen taking a stranger's food right off their plate. As a result of these potential experiences, families often feel uncomfortable taking their child to the homes of friends or relatives. This makes holidays an especially difficult time for these families. Feeling like they cannot socialize or relate to others, parents of children with autism may experience a sense of isolation from their friends, relatives and community.  Concerns Over Future Caregiving.  One of the most significant sources of stress is the concern regarding future caregiving. Parents know that they provide their child with exceptional care. They fear that no one will take care of their child like they do. There may also be no other family members willing or capable of accomplishing this task. Even though parents try and fight off thinking about the future, these thoughts and worries are still continually present.  Finances. Having a child with autism can drain a family's resources due to expenses such as evaluations, home programs, and various therapies. Because one parent might give up his or her job because of the caregiving demands of raising a child with autism, financial strains may be exacerbated by only having one income to support all of the families' needs.   Feelings of Grief. Parents of children with autism are grieving the loss of the "typical" child that they expect ed to have. In addition, parents are grieving the loss of lifestyle that they expected for themselves and family. The feelings of grief that parents experience can be a source of stress due its ongoing nature. Current theories of grief suggest that parents of children with developmental disabilities experience episodes of grief throughout the life cycle as different events (eg. birthdays, holidays, unending caregiving) trigger grief reactions (Worthington, 1994). Experiencing "chronic sorrow" is a psychological stressor that can be frustrating, con fusing and depressing.

Philippians 4:19
 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Thursday, October 23, 2014


On the way to ST & OT Wednesday morning, the sun was very bright! It was shining real big in Andrew's side of the van. As soon as the sun hit him, he said, "Bright. Need sunglasses."
Mommy gave him her sunglasses....he is much cuter in them than Mommy!


I love it when they both fall asleep at the same time!!! I just wished they would go to their own bed and fall asleep but I will take what I can get!

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Pictures from Harsha

Harsha was able to get some great pictures of the boys the past few days!

When Nana and I picked the boys up today, Andrew said, "No home. I want more school." It was so cute!! They are so happy there and I am happy that they are so happy!! 

Proverbs 3: 5-6
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths